adulting
She chose the path that seemed less traveled.
She came to many forks in the road.
She made a wrong turn, once, twice, three, too many to count.
She lost her way of direction for some time.
But with her eye on True North she kept tracking through and finally decided to make her own path.
Sometimes you need to trail off the path and make a new one.
Because only then, was she able to see where the rest of her journey would lead her.
Dating Rules. Are there any anymore? The past few years, the dating scene makes it much more difficult to figure out if you're in the beginnings of a potential relationship, or in for another roller coaster ride that makes you throw up at the end.
One example of such dating, is reaching that awkward moment, where you're both (or just one party) is still talking to other people. Due to you two not having the "we're in a committed dating relationship" conversation and or mutual agreement, leaves open windows of potential jealousy, clinginess, and a whirlwind of emotional confusion. Telling yourself, you don't want to get attached, yet you can't help the feels. Therefore singing the endless tune that all men and woman are the same, following with statements of-
-constantly blaming the other party. But what if, because of this constant awkward scenario, those of us, who are actively looking for a relationship, can't seem to find someone to commit?
Come on Millennials, we're adults, most of us have a handle on adulting; I mean, we share it with a hashtag to prove so!
HA!!
Nevertheless, in all seriousness, if we like someone, shouldn't we just come out and say it? Put your hands to their face, look them in the eye and whisper, "I'm in like with you." Maybe not in that literal sense, but be vocal about having feelings for that person, and only that person.
Much of this is caused by a dilemma that has come to be called serial dating. Stop serial dating! Emotions just get thrown everywhere that way. As a consequence of such serial actions, we find ourselves in the same dating slump as before.
I admit, I am guilty of serial dating; and as personal analysis-still single because of my serial actions. Although, I have realized my own personal rationale (during the time of my crimes) for participating in this murderous habit:
Horrible I know. -*Palm to face*- However, what I have concluded from my serial dating crimes, when I am genuinely into a guy, I don't want to be dating anyone else. My full focus is on them, I want to know all I can about them. When time permits, I want my time to be spent with them. That's how I know-it's real.
Trust me, as a woman these emotions are sometimes hard to control so you don't come off looking like a total clingy psychopath. Woman, we can be a little extreme sometimes. Thus, we play it cool, give the men their space; still at the same time, let them know, in the simplest of ways, that we're thinking about them. Added bonus points, is when you-our attracted counterpart- let us know you're thinking about us too.
To reiterate what I said about dating rules, there really aren't any. I know there are countless articles on how to go about making him/her like you. "make them yours". The truth is, when two people are attracted to each other, rules don't apply.
These two people become patient, like surfers waiting for the perfect set. They sit on their boards, waiting patiently so that they can ride it out together. Sure there will be wipe-outs, broken boards, and board rash, but if they pull you right back out of your wipe-out, maybe, just maybe, you'll be able to ride the wave out to shore.