Young. Wild. & Frustrated- "Is this real life?!"

July 30, 2017

Butterflies in your stomach. Cheesy ass smile across your face. Major feels about the person - this my fellow readers are signs of being sprung.

Yup I said it, I'm sprung. Don't know how this happened, well I do but that's beside the point. You never know who's going to come into your life and give you the unexpected. As you are well aware from my previous dating entries, which seemed to be going nowhere, I believe I have found the diamond in the rough. The peanut to my jelly, the cheese to my macaroni, and to quote The Little Rascals, "He melts me like a Popsicle stick on the 4th of July". Ha ha, but in all seriousness I think I may have found my match.

I was at the point of forgetting about the dating life because I was so over all the f*ckery. Then, he slipped into my DM with a unique way to start the conversation. From there, exchanged numbers and started to get to know each-other better.

Come first date/meet-up. Didn't give me a choice really as to whether or not I was able to meet on said day, but instead said with a confident, "I'll see you tomorrow Nat". Family timing lead to things not working out as planned BUT did end up meeting on said day. (He later told me that he thought I wasn't going to show up and flake, due to our conversation leading up to the meet up.) Needless to say we hit it off right away. He opened up in a way I have never experienced for someone opening up until maybe a few months knowing eachother. This immediately grew my attraction. Who is this man? Is he for real though? Yes, very much real, real since day one. We talked about our hopes, dreams, goals, family and came to find that we share many of the same qualities and have the same drive for what we want. That in itself said so much. To me, nothing is more attractive than a man who knows what he wants, and not only that but goes for it, and IS working towards it.

I've always been the one in the relationship to push my counterpart to do more. Go for the things they wished out of their life, careers, etc. Granted I had the support to pursue my dreams and goals but neither of them have ever pushed me to go for it in the extent I needed to be pushed. This is what this man does for me, he compliments me where I can't myself. Having someone who understands you need to do what it takes to get where you want with your goals, is one of the biggest support systems you can have.

Yes this is still all very new, and these feelings are for sure the first time butterflies of a new relationship forming. Can't say what's going to happen down the road, but things are going well so far and for sure as hell I'm going to enjoy it!

Young. Wild. & Frustrated - That Awkward Moment

July 12, 2017

Dating Rules. Are there any anymore? The past few years, the dating scene makes it much more difficult to figure out if you're in the beginnings of a potential relationship, or in for another roller coaster ride that makes you throw up at the end.

One example of such dating, is reaching that awkward moment, where you're both (or just one party) is still talking to other people. Due to you two not having the "we're in a committed dating relationship" conversation and or mutual agreement, leaves open windows of potential jealousy, clinginess, and a whirlwind of emotional confusion. Telling yourself, you don't want to get attached, yet you can't help the feels. Therefore singing the endless tune that all men and woman are the same, following with statements of-

That's why I'm still single
I'll just live with my thousand dogs/cats and die alone

-constantly blaming the other party. But what if, because of this constant awkward scenario, those of us, who are actively looking for a relationship, can't seem to find someone to commit?

Come on Millennials, we're adults, most of us have a handle on adulting; I mean, we share it with a hashtag to prove so!

HA!!

Nevertheless, in all seriousness, if we like someone, shouldn't we just come out and say it? Put your hands to their face, look them in the eye and whisper, "I'm in like with you." Maybe not in that literal sense, but be vocal about having feelings for that person, and only that person.

Much of this is caused by a dilemma that has come to be called serial dating. Stop serial dating! Emotions just get thrown everywhere that way. As a consequence of such serial actions, we find ourselves in the same dating slump as before.

I admit, I am guilty of serial dating; and as personal analysis-still single because of my serial actions. Although, I have realized my own personal rationale (during the time of my crimes) for participating in this murderous habit:

Keeping my options open
One my parents would approve, one I just want to hang out with when the other is unavailable
Not letting myself get too attached for fear of being hurt
Boredom

Horrible I know. -*Palm to face*- However, what I have concluded from my serial dating crimes, when I am genuinely into a guy, I don't want to be dating anyone else. My full focus is on them, I want to know all I can about them. When time permits, I want my time to be spent with them. That's how I know-it's real.

Trust me, as a woman these emotions are sometimes hard to control so you don't come off looking like a total clingy psychopath. Woman, we can be a little extreme sometimes. Thus, we play it cool, give the men their space; still at the same time, let them know, in the simplest of ways, that we're thinking about them. Added bonus points, is when you-our attracted counterpart- let us know you're thinking about us too.

To reiterate what I said about dating rules, there really aren't any. I know there are countless articles on how to go about making him/her like you. "make them yours". The truth is, when two people are attracted to each other, rules don't apply.

These two people become patient, like surfers waiting for the perfect set. They sit on their boards, waiting patiently so that they can ride it out together. Sure there will be wipe-outs, broken boards, and board rash, but if they pull you right back out of your wipe-out, maybe, just maybe, you'll be able to ride the wave out to shore.

Young. Wild & Frustrated - Entry One.

June 29, 2017

2017. Social media is still on the rise, Snapchat filters, #FOMO is still in effect, era of selfies, #squadgoals and #BAE. Speaking of BAE (before anyone else) for those of you still out of the "hip" lingo; finding your BAE now a days is a tad bit more difficult than before.

Based on personal experience and just seeing what friends of mine in the dating scene have had plenty of headaches of, let me share some background...

Now we have apps and websites to help people like myself find "the one". But what these apps have also created is an open window for hookups, f*ckboys, the unwanted d*ck pics, men/boys thinking it's okay to leave shivery a thing of the past. I'm not saying that all these men are the same, however, I feel because you are hidden behind a phone and or computer screen, you kind of get straight to the point. But, once you do find someone who isn't a complete creep, make conversation and make plans to meet up, they either:

A) never follow through

B) turn out to be a completely different in person than they portray themselves on the app

C) You two actually hit it off but then eventually, one of you gets Ghosted (when you cut off communication with someone with no explanation or reasons)

Making the whole headache of dating in 2017 feel like a complete waist of time. You delete the app(s) for a few weeks or so, get bored and go through the same headache all over again; telling yourself that this time it's going to be different and you're going to be extra picky and filter your selections more heavily. Because, at the end of the day, when we tell ourselves I'm better off being single and doing me, we still want that someone. Let's face it, it's interesting to see what kind of people find us attractive as well.

As mentioned before, this has happened in my own 2017 dating life. It's frustrating as hell! Coming out of a four year relationship and putting myself back out there is hard. At this point of my life I am looking for someone to eventually marry. I know this is not going to happen over night, let alone may not even happen with the first man from these sites I end up dating. But, that is my ultimate goal! I want a partner who has goals, loves his family, wants to grow with me, be a gentlemen, and most importantly someone I can see making memories with for hopefully, the rest of my life. That's not too much to ask for, is it? I know woman aren't innocent in all this either, there are some questionable actions from both sexes.

In conclusion, I will be sharing my dating stories from time to time. To give you a few laughs and to just give you examples as to how dating, for a Millennial such as myself, can be a real pain in the ass. Until next time, have a beautiful day everyone! And to quote Ellen Degeneres, "Be kind to one another."